What’s a Little Road Rash?

     I like to walk my dog, Sweetie, along the Wabash Cannonball Trail. We’re lucky to live near such a nice walking trail. It’s completely paved, so walking is easy for older adults like me. But the really great thing about it is that the trail winds through farm country. About a half mile from my house in either direction, I’m in the midst of bean fields and corn fields. Going two miles west, you’re in the middle of downtown Whitehouse very near General’s Ice Cream—for my money, the finest soft serve in the county.  Two miles in the other direction is a beautiful stand of pines. Maybe you’re like me—happily familiar with the quiet and peace that is present in such a grove. Some summer day, I intend to sneak under that particular canopy and sit for a while. I hope the farmer who owns it won’t mind.

     The red-winged black birds are in full voice right now, frequently perched high on dried pampas grass. Before they fly away, they squawk out a warning to their friends.

    There are lots of cardinals around, too. I’m always amazed by the number of distinct songs they warble. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve looked up a different bird call on the app I downloaded to my phone. Almost inevitably, it’s a Northern cardinal. Soon, my other favorites, the goldfinches, will join the menagerie.

     People make good use of the Wabash Cannonball Trail. Bike riders, joggers, roller bladers, hover boarders…you name it, you’ll see it on the trail. And dogs. Lots of dogs.

     Ninety-nine percent of the time, the dogs are on leashes. I usually steer clear of them just because Sweetie is a little unpredictable in her encounters with other dogs.  But once in a blue moon, a dog will roam free. People out here are pretty responsible about keeping their pets on a leash or in the yard, so it truly is a rarity, but today was one of those days when a free-roaming dog reminded me of things I have to be grateful for.

     Sweetie and I were about a mile from our home when we came upon a lady who appears a little older than me, riding her bike. We’ve met her many times. She always says hello, usually followed by a comment about how lovely the day is. Today, she was being circled by a long-legged black dog, who was jumping around, clearly happy to be outside. I’ve never seen this lady with a dog, but the dog stayed so close to her that I assumed it was hers. As is my usual practice, I pulled Sweetie far off to the opposite side of the trail. The dog saw us and ran right up to Sweetie. Another female—I wasn’t sure how Sweetie would respond, but she stood there calmly as the black dog sniffed her nose-to-tail.

     “This dog isn’t mine,” the lady said. “She just ran across Bucher Road and began following me.”

     I tried to get hold of the dog’s collar to see if I could find a contact number, but she was so active, I couldn’t hold her still long enough to read the tag. She began jumping on the other lady. This dog was so tall I was afraid she was going to knock the woman onto the ground. I finally got hold of the dog’s collar so my trail friend could bicycle away. I was able to see the owner’s phone number and the pup’s name. I held on long enough to memorize the number, repeating it to myself several times. Then I let go because she was just too much to handle and dialed the number. She took off running and jumping again.

     “Hello?”

     “Hi! Do you have a dog named Millie?”

     “Yes. Who’s calling please?”

     “My name’s Theresa. Listen, your dog is loose and running around on the Wabash Cannonball Trail.”

     “What? Oh my God, I don’t know how she got out of the yard.”

    “Well, she’s out here. She’s really nice—wants to play—but I’m afraid she’ll get hit on Bucher Road.”

     “I’m on my way out of the house right now. Thank you for calling!’

     I looked around, but now, Millie was nowhere in sight. Sweetie and I continued home.

     I noticed an SUV with State of Ohio plates sitting on the side of Bucher Road. Millie was headed straight for it. The man in the SUV got out and tried to catch Millie. Relief—someone else was trying to help. Though there’s not a lot of traffic on Bucher, the cars usually drive somewhat over the posted speed limit, and Millie was so impulsive that I was concerned she’d be hit. The state man tried to get Millie into his vehicle, but there was no way that was happening. Just then, I heard a voice calling.

     “Millie…Millie! Get over here right now!”

     The state man walked towards the house from which the voice was coming, and Millie followed him. The saga was coming to a safe end.  Sweetie and I kept walking. However, Millie was determined to have her day of freedom. After running around in circles in her own yard a few times, she headed right back for the trail and me. By this time, the state worker was back in his vehicle, but he continued to stay parked, so I thought between the two of us we should be able to help Millie get home.

     I heard a lawnmower start up, and at the home I now believed to be Millie’s, I saw a gentleman on a riding lawn mower, driving around his yard, calling for the dog. It seemed a strange way to try to recapture your canine, but I also noticed that the gentleman was wearing knee-high support stockings, and because his hair was completely white, I guessed he might be older, possibly less mobile than he once might’ve been.

     Millie ran right up to Sweetie and me. I grabbed her collar and began walking her across Bucher Road, Sweetie’s leash in my right hand, Millie’s collar in my left. Just as we got to the middle of Bucher, Millie leapt into the air about as high as my head (I’m nearly six feet tall), then took off running, pulling me to the ground. I had to let go, thankful no cars were coming.

     The state fellow stayed in his SUV. I am certain he must have seen me, trying to get myself untangled from Sweetie’s leash and wipe the blood off my hands. I was in a state of shock and in some minor pain, so I was a little slow to rise. The state guy never even poked his head out of the window to inquire as to whether or not I was okay. Seemed a little callous, but whatever.

     By this time, Millie was no longer around, and I assume she had been subdued by her owner. I picked up my wounded pride and my wounded self and started walking again, albeit a bit more slowly. And I admit it—I felt a little sorry for myself. Just trying to do a good deed and all…

     As I was arriving at my backyard, my phone rang. It was Millie’s owner.

     “Is this Theresa? I wanted to thank you again for letting me know about Millie. I don’t even know you, but you tried to help. I appreciate it.”

     “Did you figure out how she got loose?”

     “No, I really don’t know. I’ve got to check the latch on the gate. I just got her about six months ago. She’s two years old.”

     I laughed. “She acts like a two-year old!”

     “She’s almost too much for me to handle. I thought I might use her as an assistance dog, but I don’t know if that’s going to work.”

     “An assistance dog?”

     “Yeah. I’m legally blind, see? Schrapnel. Nam. Hey, if you’re ever walking this way again, stop by and visit. It’d be nice to have a visitor.”

     We hung up.

     I didn’t thank him for his service.

      I looked down at the road rash on my right knee and the bloody right palm I was nursing.  My right hip was complaining pretty loudly too, but it struck me that luck has smiled on me over and over during so much of my life. I’m seventy years old and in pretty good health. I’m certainly not blind or disabled in any way. I don’t have to take a shoebox full of different medicines. I’m not living in the middle of a war zone. No natural disaster has ever taken all I owned. And while I’m not wealthy, I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and food in the pantry. My kids, who had advantages unheard of by children in so many parts of the world, grew up to be sunshine in the lives of all who know them. I had a great job and still have a million wonderful friends.

      So what’s a little road rash?

Turn Your Back on the World (for just a bit, anyway…)

2020 has been terribly odd, don’t you think? Odd…tumultuous…spirit-sucking at times.

Listen, after a great start to the year, including a trip out west that was more fun and full of more blessings than we probably deserved, we came home to Corona…ma-ma-ma-myyyyyy Corona. Ok, not mine personally, but you know what I mean. There was so much confusion about how to proceed, so much dismay over lack of preparation, so much anger over changes from day-to-day. It is a novel virus…no one knew exactly what to do except to keep plugging, listen to the legit scientists, and use common sense, which we now know is sadly lacking in many people. But I digress…

Then came all the civil unrest. I can’t even address it because it’s ungodly complex. A lot of people would like you to believe that it’s a simple matter of law and order, but it goes so much deeper that I feel I’d have to write a whole separate blog to address what I observed and what I know (please don’t comment that it would then be a short blog). Some days I just wanted to open my window and yell, “All of you people behave out there! Whyn’t y’all act like you love somebody for a change?” I didn’t do it. I didn’t want any of my neighbors to think I was losing it. I really wasn’t, but man, the behavior of the human race can be discouraging sometimes. Again, I digress…

I’m really here to tell you about the picture up above. I like to make a small garden every year, and this year (I assume because we were all locked up in our castles with the drawbridges in the upright position), EVERYONE ELSE WANTED TO, TOO. Well, that’s a good thing, but it meant that when I went to my favorite plant place, Hoen’s, the pickings were pretty slim. I’m mostly a tomato/pepper/onions grower, and the tables were darn near empty. Kid you not. So I took what I could get. Yes, I took what I could get (thank you, Bachman Turner Overdrive). That included some varieties of tomatoes I’ve never grown before. This one happens to be called Carolina Gold. We’ve now consumed our first ripe one, and man are they ever good! Meaty, less acid-y than their red brothers and sisters. Delicious. And we got to watch it grow.

Let me encourage you to garden next year, pandemic or not – civil unrest or not – in spite of whatever happens in the election this fall. Grow something. (Something legal, I mean.) I bet you’ll feel like you are mentally healthier and happier if you can get your hands in the dirt and just turn your back on the world for a while. When you’re concentrating on nurturing growth, it’s harder to get entangled in all the noise and fury of this old world. Plus you get some awesome food.

That’s all from me. Have a peaceful day.

Ragged Road

All nurses are providers of education to patients. Whether they are giving information about how to stay well or whether they’re talking about a particular disease state and treatment options, nurses provide up-to-date information and education. And so it was in Ragged Road…Rose was prepared for labor and delivery thanks to two caring, compassionate nurses – Deb White and Angie Sweeney. The following passage describes the start of Rose’s labor in the Cordelia Weingarten Home:

In the early evening of November 10, Rose started having more frequent Braxton-Hicks contractions, or so she thought. She had not been assigned any chores again that day, and she was grateful because she had been able to get some rest. The contractions were hard and uncomfortable. She remembered what Angie had told her…if the contractions start to come regularly, they’re not Braxton-Hicks. She decided to read the materials the two nurses had given her one more time, measure the time between contractions, and get herself mentally ready for the hard work ahead.

The outcomes of labor and delivery are not quite what Rose expects, though….

Happy birthday to me 03-13-25

This story broke my heart. Even 72 years of hardening didn’t prepare me for how I would feel about this. You see, this could have been me or any one of a multitude of “too male-looking” females.

I am 5’11’’ tall. (I used to be 6’ until intervertebral desiccation shrunk me by half an inch or so.) I have broad shoulders, long arms and legs, big hands and feet, and my voice moderates between alto and first baritone. I have a very square jaw (thanks, Dad!) and am not what you might traditionally call “pretty.” It’s okay – I don’t worry about that stuff anymore. But to think that transgender fear is so great out there that someone might call security on someone because they look “too male” or “too female” (it could happen to a guy, too, I imagine) just does me in today. I can only imagine the humiliation and denigration this woman felt.

Why can’t we stay out of each other’s hair? Why is it so important for us to try to fit every square peg into our own round hole? If there’s one thing I’ve learned at age 72, it’s that the more we try to connect with each other and understand each other, the more peace of mind we’ll have. And even if we can’t walk a mile in the other guy’s shoes, just leave each other the heck alone. Is that so hard? Really?

Someday I am going to die

Some thoughts on a lovely Sunday morning…

Someday I am going to die.

I’m not afraid,
but I don’t want to leave.
Can the love that awaits me
on the other side
be any more amazing
than what I have here?

It’s difficult to imagine…
to believe.
So let me
remain here
for as long as possible.


And when the love
is no longer around me –
when my life force is all spent –
I’ll depart with a prayer
that I leave behind

some star stuff
that shines and shimmers
in the atmosphere.

Happy to announce…

Thanks to all the people who keep supporting this little habit of mine – writing.

I completed a novella (or novelette, according to some literary types) which has begun being published in serial form by an online journal called Bewildering Stories. The novella is called “Leaving Hedges”, and as a reader, you have an opportunity to comment on the story through a “challenge” you’ll see at the bottom of Part 1 of my story.

So that you know, Part 2 is also available online. The journal editor thought it might take 5 or 6 installments to complete publication. I hope you’ll take the time to read this little story. I enjoyed writing it and hope you find it entertaining and thought provoking.

Among the Angels

If I knew when I was going to die,
I would eat donuts every day.

I would fill my house with flowers
and windchimes.
Then I’d open all the windows
so the winter winds
could create
my favorite music.

I’d hurt my eyes looking at the sun.

I’d hold my children’s hands
and tell them that

         they

were the brightest light in my life.
I’d kiss my husband
tender, long, and sweet.

I’d tell them all
not to cry.

Then I’d close my eyes
and let their faces
be the breeze
that carries me
to Heaven,
knowing that only among the angels
would anything be better

than what I had on earth.

Number 5 is ‘in the can’

The latest book is completed. A few “beta readers” are going through it and have had some helpful tips. Next, it’s off to the editor.

This book’s working title is “The Survivor’s Circle.” Without giving too much away, it is about a group of women who have all survived sexual assault and have been learning to cope and move on with life. One person is unable to do this – move on – and the consequences make for a twisted, chaotic, murderous journey.

It’s a dark topic, and it wasn’t easy to write. I had to stop several times over the course of the last year, put it aside, and then come back to it later. I think that for many people, it might not be easy to read, either, though it is not focused on one sexual assault after another…it’s more focused on coping mechanisms – some good, some destructive.

I don’t know when it will be available. Once we’ve got the editing done, I hope to pursue traditional publishing routes, so potentially, this one could be quite a while before you see it. I’ll keep you up-to-date with where it is in this process, and I hope that when it’s finally available, you’ll give it a read. And as always, I appreciate all the support.

Hickory

I gave up impassioned speeches

They’re meaningless to those

who don’t want to hear.

I gave up recitation of truths.

They were meaningless to those

who choose alternative facts.

I almost gave up on reason

and rationality.

But not quite…

Thoughts came as clear

as the crystal

in my corner cabinet –

Show kindness,

decency,

the four-letter “L” word.

Strength comes from

forgiveness

if only we can learn it.

After all, life here is short –

Hard as hickory

and delicate as death.